One of the most common fears that keep us from doing what we want is the fear of judgment. Fear in general is the quantity that keeps us frozen in our tracks, but judgment is a special kind of suffering we want to avoid.
We are perpetually concerned with what others think about us, from old friends to strangers. We never want to make a bad impression, and the worst thing that could possibly happen is to have people think we’re stupid.
If we catch even a whiff that this is occurring, it’s easy for us to imagine that the world is ending and that we will become a social pariah. One tense word or misinterpreted look and that’s all it takes. But sometimes judgment from others is our fate and there is little we can do about it.Continue reading “Salvaging a Social Situation”